Developing your relationship is the emergency care it needs to heal. But for long-term marital health, you also need to take care of yourself. Trying out a new hobby, getting involved in your community, or tapping into your spiritual side can help you recover from — and will prevent you from having — emotional affairs.

When you have more interests in your life, you have less of a desire to find something exciting and taboo to intrigue you. Plus, you’ll lead a richer, fuller life with less emotionally needy gaps. You also need to funnel all the energy you were putting into your affair back into your marriage